[meutiveit] Motivate, Motivates, Motivating, Motivated

First of all, what is ‘motivation’? It is said to be the key to success. It’s the engine that drives us forward so we are able to complete our daily tasks. It’s just like a car. A car needs a driver with a key, without the driver the car is useless. We need goals to motivate ourselves. We motivate ourselves to do schoolwork, so we get good grades. We motivate ourselves to work, so we get our salary. A big part of our daily living is determined by ‘motivation’.

 

Motivation is my biggest challenge. I find it hard to motivate myself to accomplish tasks I show no interest in. It’s often schoolwork I postpone, just like every other lazy teenager. But really, it’s not because I am lazy. It’s because I find it boring. Too boring. Why does it have to be so boring? I think schools could make learning more fun. Less book reading and more practical work. That’s how we learn!

 

In the morning when I get up, I feel sad. I find it hard to motivate myself to go to school. What is there to look forward to? Obviously there are friends, but I don’t really have ‘proper’ friends. They are just friends, not best friends which I really want. The friends I have, we never spend time together after school. They go off playing football, while I go off to my computer. I get criticised nearly every day because I spend a lot of time in front of my computer. Just because it differs from the average hobbies it can’t be accepted. No one can accept that I enjoy sitting on a computer more than kicking a ball. Most likely because no one else does it.

 

Last year my mother called me and came with a big surprise. She said we were going on a vacation to Mexico. I was indescribably happy about this. I hadn’t been on vacation for years! I was really looking forward to this! When the vacation started the most typical thing happened, I got sick. Really sick. I was still sick when I came home! After the vacation I was quite sad. I felt I didn’t get a lot out of it. I felt depressed and stressed, thinking of all the schoolwork I had to catch up. The waiting time before the vacation was my motivation stream that had kept me going. But that was over now. I suppose I feel a little sorry for myself.

I admit it. I didn’t get a proper vacation and even today I still can’t seem to catch up on all the things that are happening.

 

On the more romantic side of this subject, love is something that can motivate people. Love is like gasoline for the car. Not necessarily proper love. Any love. Love from family and friends, from your dogs and cats. We can easily see the combining formulas between love and motivation in a classic example when the men work all day and look forward to seeing their wives at home. They get motivated to work, because work equals getting home to their loved ones. Another example; Imagine the feeling of waking up in the morning and seeing your loved one lying next to you. Of course, I am a little too young for that. But you understand what I mean.

 

However, it makes me a little sad when I see that many of my friends have girlfriends.

Of course, I’m happy for them, but in a way I’m jealous. I keep thinking to myself,

“Why is it always me?” Which isn’t right because it’s not only me. There are plenty of others that wish they had close relationships.

 

So why this self pity, you might ask. I guess I just want to express myself a little. I hardly get the chance to do it, mainly because of my lack of proper friends, but also I find it interesting to talk about. Motivation is very important to us humans. We need it to work properly. I have noticed in the past weeks that my working skills have sunken dramatically. I have a lack of concentration and I can’t seem to finish what I start. It’s the lack of motivation. I need to be motivated, but I don’t know how.